Learn to Conquer your Fears ...
"Fear is our only enemy, our chain to misery and heartache. Fear keeps us focused on what we don't want rather than on what we must do to create peace, abundance and joy."
Susan L. Taylor ("Lessons in Living")
We are all afraid of something. Deep inside of us, we have fears that have been created since our early childhood. We are afraid of not pleasing our parents; afraid of not performing well in school; afraid of letting down our loved ones, our teachers, our friends, our bosses; afraid of not being accepted by our peers; afraid of getting hurt, afraid of taking chances, afraid of making mistakes, etc.
Only when we learn to truly accept ourselves for who we are - with our abilities and our limitations - and learn to embrace positive thoughts, do we start to feel better. We all have great potential; the trick is to always try our best, avoid negative thoughts and use our talents. We can always learn new things and new ways of doing certain things, but we have to believe that we have the power to accomplish anything we set our minds to do. Believing is the key...
Yes, there will be many times when we will feel scared and confused; but as long a we have strong values and principles - these will help us deal with all of our fears and our confusion. The important thing is to always keep believing in our potential and trust our inner strength.
I believe our purpose in life is to learn many lessons. Lessons that we chose to learn even before we came here. Sometimes the lessons are not comfortable; but every experience, every challenge, teaches us something new and we have to be receptive to learn and try not to make the same mistakes - over and over.
To become a better person we have to learn from our mistakes, and we should never be afraid to learn. Everything is a learning experience!
I also believe that the most important lesson in life is to learn to love. Love is the opposite of fear and once we learn how to love - ourselves and others... we are no longer afraid. I read somewhere (and I believe it!): "In life, you attract what you love and you attract what you fear" - so be careful and pay attention to your thoughts. I will say it many times: THOUGHTS ARE POWERFUL!
Leo Buscaglia said:
"Life is a choice and it's yours to make. But take full responsibility for the choice you make."
"A wonderful realization will be the day you realize that you are unique in all the world."
"Love because you will to love. Give because you will to give. You live and love because you will. Because you MUST."
Joshua Loth Liebman wrote in "Peace of Mind" (under "Fear Wears Many Masks"):
"In dealing with personal fears and worries which come to us in mature life, psychiatry tells us that we should first of all look at them without flinching, and recognize that our childhood is a blackmailer that makes us pay over and over again for some of the failures or mistakes that long ago have been outgrown. One of the real ways to overcome our fears is to understand and thus remove that 'emotional lag' between the actuality of adult accomplishment and our haunting memory of childish weakness."
"The wisdom of life is to endure what we must and to change what we can. Certain things we must endure, certain hardships and tragedies, defeats and losses, are part of our human destiny. We can master undue fear, however, when we learn to understand its origin in the soil of our childhood, when we take advantage of the resources, physical, medical, religious, and psychiatric, which can brush away the cobwebs from our souls, and when we come to accept ourselves with our abilities and our limitations, our joys and our depressions, universal brothers experiencing universal emotions."
"If we want to master fear and worry we must not only be willing to accept help from others but also learn to accept ourselves and our abilities as well as our limitations."
"We can master fear through faith - faith in the worthliness of life and the trustworthiness of God..."
We can master fears by understanding them and learning to accept ourselves with them; we can also master them through our work and our accomplishments (which will help us feel good about ourselves) and through faith (faith in God or a superior force, faith in ourselves, faith in humankind, faith in universal laws, faith in life ...)
"It doesn't matter what you've been through, where you come from ... none of that matters. What matters is how you choose to love, how you choose to express that love through your work, through your family, through what you have to give to the world ..."
"The practice of consciously giving thanks for the blessings, the opportunities, and the lessons that are unfolding for you right now is one of the best ways of releasing fear, and opening the door to new creative energy. Have an attitude of gratitude, and you'll naturally be more present. You'll open yourself up to the abundance, the beauty, that is always here..."
"Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain."
If you think you are beaten, you are.
If you think you dare not, you won't.
Success begins with your own will...
It is all in your state of mind.
Life's battles are not always won
By those who are stronger or faster;
Sooner or later the person who wins
Is the person who thinks he or she can.
"Take care to find your own true strength. Nurture it. Develop it. Share it with those around you. Let it become a light for those who are living in darkness."