H P i E S...
"Happiness is a choice... Our choice."
"Happiness is not a destination. It is a way of Life!"
"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts."
"We are always as happy as we make up our minds to be."
Eric Butterworth (also Abraham Lincoln)
"Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony..."
"Happiness is an inside job..." John Powell, S.J.
"The way to happiness - keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry, live simply, expect little, give much..."
"I believe all suffering is caused by ignorance. People inflict pain on others in the selfish pursuit of their happiness or satisfaction. Yet true happiness comes from a sense of peace and contentment, which in turn must be achieved through the cultivation of altruism, of love and compassion, and elimination of ignorance, selfishness, and greed."
Dalai Lama, 1989 Nobel Prize Speech
I firmly believe that it is our responsibility to make our lives happy. It is up to us to become happy individuals - even when there's a lot of negativity all around us and others make a great effort to put us down and make us feel bad. Even, when there are many economic, political and social problems in our country (and the rest of the world). Fear is the main obstacle that prevents us from achieving happiness. Fear limits us, stops us from going for what we want and takes control of our lives!
Of course, we will have times of sadness, frustration, anger, physical and emotional pain, etc. Times, when we feel that everything is going wrong; or when we feel overwhelmed with too much work, too many responsibilities, too much stress. Yes, we will all experience many negative emotions and emotional pain; but we all have the inner resources to rise above them. We have to pay close attention to our thoughts and feelings and try our best to embrace a positive outlook on life. If we only concentrate in the bad of every situation and only focus on problems and not on solutions, if we are always pessimistic and become distrustful of people, if we doubt ourselves or feel like victims - we simply won't accomplish much and will end up just miserable.
We also have to try to simplify our lives as best as we can. Sometimes we're just trying to do TOO MUCH, and we overextend ourselves. We think we can do it all, and that's not humanly possible; we're constantly multitasking and create a life of extreme "busyness" (many times doing important things; but others, filling our time with mindless distractions). We need to learn to create balance, harmony and order in our daily life in order to find and feel happiness.
It's easy to fall in the habit of putting ourselves down and doubting the good intentions of others (please check the Web pages "Negative Attitudes" and "Thoughts Are Powerful"). I want to emphasize the importance of getting rid of our negative thoughts and attitudes. We all have the power to let go (or diminish substantially) our fears and to start believing in our potential and ability to overcome our problems, to free ourselves of the monsters within us - to start truly appreciating ourselves, discovering our talents and strengths and forgiving ourselves for our weaknesses. Let's always try our BEST and do our BEST!
I have another favorite book now: "10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace" by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer *. I highly recommend it; it's small, easy to read and full of valuable lessons. Please check it out!
Dr. Wayne Dyer mentions the importance of avoiding thoughts that weaken you; of using your mind to empower yourself and to embrace things that uplift you and raise your spirit and energy levels; of staying away from self-defeating and negative thoughts! He also mentions the importance of forgiving yourself: "If you carry around thoughts of shame about what you've done in the past, you're weakening yourself both physically and emotionally."
To release guilt, you have to empower yourself with thoughts of love and respect. Let go of standards of perfection - no one is perfect! Just make a commitment to be better than you used to be and learn from your past experiences.
"Every moment of every day presents an unlimited number of options for living fully and being connected to life."
When you move away from love, when you fill yourself with negative emotions (anger, guilt, fear, etc.) and embrace negative attitudes (complaining, criticizing, judging and blaming others, etc.) you not only weaken yourself; but you also weaken and affect everyone around you. "Your thoughts determine whether you're being empowered or weakened - whether you're happy or sad, successful or not."
"The most empowering thoughts you can have are those of peace, joy, love, acceptance, and willingness."
If you live in a negative state of being by the attitudes and thoughts you allow in your mind, you'll end up depressed, anxious, upset and miserable (the kind of person people don't want to be around). I know it's hard for people to even realize that they are being very negative; that they're always thinking the worse; that they have become very cynical and don't trust anyone; that they want everyone to feel sorry for them; that they consider themselves victims and complain about everything, that they worry too much, that they make it so hard for others to love them, etc. And negativity is contagious - so be very careful! Find friends that uplift you, that are happy and make you feel good. Don't fall into the habit of complaining too much and only focusing on problems and negative situations. Use your energy responsibly - with positive actions - and your rewards will be great!
You are special, you are beautiful; you can rise above your problems and have the best life you choose. Don't let painful memories or fears keep you captive and miserable. Start enjoying your life, trust people, appreciate your loved ones and concentrate in the positive aspects of your relationships, your school (and/or your work), your life in general. Find BALANCE and stop blaming others for your weaknesses. Love and respect yourself and take responsibility for your life!
Make a conscious effort to change. Change your attitude, change your thoughts; change whatever you have to change in your life to make it happy - it is your choice! "Your mind is yours to control!" Learn to control your thoughts and your emotions, discipline your mind - I know it's not an easy task, but you can develop the strength required. One of the ways to do this is through prayer, meditation and reflection. Try it!
The following was written by the "Josephson Institute of Ethics":**
Ask struggling adolescents why they get high on drugs or alcohol or seek sex without intimacy or commitment and they're likely to tell you they just want to be happy. Ask young professionals why they're so driven to make money and they'll talk about all the things they'd get if they were rich, things that will make them happy. Ask adults why they had affairs or left their families and you'll hear it again: "I just want to be happy." So, why aren't more people happy?
One problem is unrealistic expectations. Some people think of happiness as a continuous series of pleasurable emotions, as feeling good all the time. Others expect a much more intense or lasting feeling of joy when they achieve a desired goal. As a result, when getting what they want doesn't produce the feelings they expected they fall into despondency.
There's great danger in confusing a sustainable state of happiness with fleeting sensations of pleasure and fun. Those who make pleasure-seeking the focus of their lives soon find themselves needing new and different sources of pleasure. It's like a drug addict who needs continually higher doses to get high. Happiness is a kind of emotional resting place of quiet satisfaction with one's life. It has been said that the art of living a happy life is a balance between getting what you want and learning to want what you get.
Traditionally, there are four main sources of real happiness: loving relationships, enjoyable work, service to others and faith.
Let's start with relationships. Are you spending enough time and energy nurturing this dimension of life? It may be possible to love what you do so much that you don't need other people, but more often than not, those who fail to develop and sustain meaningful relationships - with friends, family, life partners - regret their priorities when they find themselves alone. And it's not just success-obsessed executives who lament the lost opportunities of loving and being loved. Ministers, teachers, police officers and politicians - people who devote their lives to serving others - may be especially apt to neglect the people they need (and who need them) the most.
Is your work likely to make you happy? Of course, not everyone has the luxury of having a job they love. Unfortunately, these kinds of jobs don't often pay well and, after all, a job is how one makes a living. Still, many people put up with boring or unpleasant work situations because they place too much weight on what they earn and where they work and too little on what they do. If work is not emotionally rewarding you may want to consider trade-offs as an investment in happiness.
Helen Keller said, "True happiness is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose." Albert Schweitzer said, "One thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve." These observations should remind us of the potency of peace of mind and sense of value one can get from devoting oneself to a worthy cause.
(C) Josephson Institute of Ethics, a nonpartisan, nonsectarian organization.)
Also, please check: http://articles.mercola.com - for other great advice ("Simple Secrets of How to be Happy.") Check this site for other advice on nutritional supplements. Sometimes all we need is some extra vitamins and supplements to feel better (besides more physical activity and better sleep). We have to learn to take care of ourselves and our health - to take care of our spirit, mind and body (not an easy task!).
"Lead the life that will make you kindly and friendly to everyone about you, and you will be surprised what a happy life you will lead."
Charles M. Schwab
"A mind that's open to everything means being peaceful, radiating love, practicing forgiveness, being generous, respecting all life, and most important, visualizing yourself as capable of doing anything that you can conceive of in your mind and heart."
"When you stop resisting and fighting life, life has its own surprising way of coming into balance and harmony."
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
"When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another."
"If we could see the miracle of a single flower clearly, our whole life would change."
"There are only two positions you can take. Either you believe that nothing in life is a miracle, or you believe that everything in life is a miracle."
"The ability to participate in miracles - true miracles in your life - happens when you open your mind to your limitless potential."
"Instead of seeing yourself from the outside in, take a look from the inside out - and find the key to your happiness."
"Teach yourself to be happy with the choices you make."
"Happiness is a state of mind. You have the power to change your mind!"
"Happiness is like perfume - you can't spray it on others without getting some on yourself..."
Wilferd A. Peterson
"People are as Happy as they make their minds up to be!" Abraham Lincoln
"INSPIRATION is essential to feel happy and amazingly alive..."
'THINK HAPPY THOUGHTS!" (Yes, I sound like "Peter Pan"...!)
WISH YOUR HAPPINESS...
Please check: Great Poems.
* Copyright (C) 2001 by Wayne W. Dyer. "10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace". Published by Hay
House, Inc. P.O. Box 5100, Carlsbad, CA 92018-5100. Please check: www.hayhouse.com.
** Please check www.josephsoninstitute.org.
...is something created within - not a treasure you search for again and again.
It's an attitude gained from learning to know how to deal with the bad things and letting them go.
It's smiling whenever life gives you a reason - and finding a reason through all of life's seasons...