"One of the greatest powers you can possess is often but simple patience."

"Learn the art of patience. Apply discipline to your thoughts when they become anxious over the outcome of a goal. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational outlook, which eventually leads to success."

Brian Adams

Patience is a universal virtue - an important quality to develop. We have to discipline ourselves to learn to become patient individuals; to learn to be tolerant and kind toward others. The dictionary defines patience as "the state or quality of being patient; the power of suffering with fortitude; uncomplaining endurance of evils or wrongs, as toil, pain, poverty, insult, oppression, calamity, etc." Also as "the act or power of calmly or contentedly waiting for something due or hoped for; forbearance. Patience implies the quietness or self-possession of one's own spirit under sufferings, provocations, etc."

Someone capable of calmly awaiting an outcome or result - not hasty or impulsive, tolerant and understanding is considered a "patient" person.

Our patience is constantly tested. Every day we experience certain situations that require us to be patient (sometimes extremely patient); like when we have to wait in a long line; listen to an automated message or a telemarketer; ignore a classmate that's interrupting our concentration, etc. When we are patient, we display tolerance, compassion, understanding and acceptance toward those who are slower than us in certain areas (like maturity, emotional growth, coping abilities, a specific knowledge or talent, etc.)

Patience is also a habit- a talent and an art - that can be developed and learned with discipline. It can be reinforced by motivation, awareness and practice. It's a very important habit to acquire if we want to lead a more peaceful and less stressful life. When we learn patience it will be easier for us to be less angry and to have more tolerance and empathy toward ourselves and others. Impatience just creates more problems. Yes, it is very important to learn to be both patient with ourselves and patient with others.

If we learn to stay calm and remain patient under stressful situations, we will be more capable of making better decisions; getting too upset about something will just make matters worse. Try not to worry so much! And when facing some tough times tell yourself over and over: "This too shall pass..."

According to James J. Messina, Ph.D. & Constance M. Messina, Ph.D. the following are the behavioral traits needed for developing and increasing your level of patience in your life:

Develop a consistent philosophy of life. Take life one day at a time. Consider each day a gift of life that will allow you to get one step closer to your goal of growth and change.

Accept the reality of your humanity in that you are going to need time, effort, and energy to change and grow. You will experience some resistance to altering long standing, habitual ways of acting, reacting, and believing.

Reframe your perspective on the past, present, and future. Do not dwell on your past mistakes and failings. Do not worry about what you will become or how you will act in the future. Begin to live each new day as a fresh start.

Break larger goals down into components that are short term goals and objectives, more realistically attainable in the immediate future.

Be systematic in planning your path to recovery and growth.

Accept, understand, and forgive yourself for being fragile, imperfect, and weak. You need to become your own best friend and cheerleader. Love yourself!

Wake up to the realities of life
around you. Everyone with whom you come in contact is busy working through their own struggles, weaknesses, setbacks, relapses, crises, and obstacles to their personal growth and recovery. All of us are on the path to personal growth. There is no one exempt from this journey. It takes a lifetime to complete.

Hand over and let go of the worries, concerns, anxieties, and doubts about attaining your goal.

Confront your fear
s about attaining your goal. Remember, the world was not created in a day. Beautiful symphonies, works of art, and literary masterpieces were not created in a day. A lifetime is not lived in a day.

Modify your spiritual perspective
to include your God as a guide on this journey. Be ready and willing to face challenges as you strive for personal growth.

"Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering you own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them - every day begin the task anew."

Saint Francis De Sales

"With love and patience, nothing is impossible."
Daisaku Ikeda

"Patience is the companion of wisdom."

Saint Augustine (354 AD - 430 AD)

"You must first have a lot of patience to learn to have patience."

Stanislaw J. Lec (1909 - 1966)

"The man who can have patience, can also have whatever he wills."

"If we were to ask any successful man what he considered the five most important reasons for his success, PATIENCE would be very near the top of the list."

"Discipline yourself in a quiet and calm manner, to bear the every-day trials and annoyances that surround you. In so doing, you are building strength that will enable you to cope with unforeseen trouble or calamity that may at times beset you."

"The more we cultivate patience, the less anger we carry and the more dancing we'll feel like doing."

M. J. Ryan (author of "The Power of Patience")

"Much of life requires waiting and we have a choice to do it happily or miserably."

M. J. Ryan

"Patience creates harmony..."

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