We all feel different and self-conscious at times. People's and societal expectations and pressures make us feel self-conscious about how we look, how we act, how we dress, etc. Adolescents are notoriously self-conscious; you may feel as though the whole world is watching your every move. You may imagine that others are sizing you up through a magnifying glass - enhancing every little flaw. We have to learn not to let others make us feel bad; and I know that's very hard to do. If we concentrate too much in every little defect we have - people will notice more.
Self-consciousness is not limited to appearance. Lack of confidence also shows in how you talk to people, how you carry yourself, how you move and sit, etc. Sometimes we are very shy and have a hard time socializing with others (I understand that, I used to be extremely shy during my teen years and as a child). But, be assured that as you adjust to your physical and emotional changes - that are taking place in your body and mind, you'll become less self-conscious. You will feel more comfortable with who you are. Keep learning to love yourself and things will get better; keep re-enforcing the fact that we all go through similar experiences. It's all part of growing up. And no matter how confident we appear to be, we all can be self-conscious of certain aspects of our appearance or personality. Don't worry so much and don't take yourself so seriously...
Of course, when people tease us a lot, it makes us feel very uncomfortable and bad. But once we learn to accept ourselves and not pay attention to their teasing; once we understand that they do it because they feel insecure about themselves, or that they are just trying to be funny and that is just human nature - we will be stronger and we will not let them affect us. If they see that they can cause a negative reaction in us - they'll tease us more. Let's learn to not feel intimidated by others and to not feel like victims; if not, we'll give our power away. Now, if you are in a situation where someone is really picking on you mercilessly or bullying you, you should look for help. Talk to your parents, a teacher, the principal, a counselor; anyone you think might be able to help you in this case. Don't try to solve the problem yourself. There are some people that enjoy victimizing others and we cannot let them continue with their immature and dangerous behavior. They need help.
The truth is that we put ourselves down a lot. We feel self-conscious about something that people don't even notice. They can have a very different concept of us - they can think we are beautiful (and we don't believe that we are). Sometimes I feel self-conscious about my height (I'm 5'10" and that's tall for a woman); but many people compliment me and make me feel good; they think it is great to be tall and definitely make me feel better. And yes, there are those few who will always try to make us feel badly ("Wow, you are so tall!" or "How is the temperature up there?"). So, let's try to embrace ourselves with our little imperfections and tell ourselves positive things. Let's not fall into the habit of demeaning ourselves and of letting others make us feel bad.
We are all beautiful!!!
"What you find in your mind is what you put there. Put good things in there."
"We create through thoughts; so we need to concentrate very strongly on positive thoughts."
"You are empowered when you no longer feel like a victim (of anything or anyone)... then you feel free, truly free."
"Never feel sorry for yourself - it has a deadly effect on spiritual well-being."
Believe In Your Heart
Believe in your heart that
something wonderful is about to happen.
Love your life...!
Believe in your own powers,
and your own potential,
and in your own innate goodness.
Wake every morning
with the awe of just being alive.
Discover each day the magnificent,
awesome beauty in the world...
Explore and embrace life in yourself
and in everyone you see each day.
Reach within to find your own special-ness.
Amaze yourself and rouse those around you
to the potential of each new day.
Don't be afraid to admit
that you are less than perfect;
this is the essence of your humanity.
Let those who love you help you.
Trust enough to be able to take.
Look with hope to the horizon of today,
for today is all we truly have.
Live this day well.
Let a little sun out as well as in.
Create your own rainbows.
Be open to all your possibilities;
all possibilities and miracles.
Always believe in miracles!
(sometimes the author mentioned is Ruth Carter-Bourdon)